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Bridesmaid pregnant and due the week of my wedding

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Bridesmaid pregnant and due the week of my wedding

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One of my bridesmaids is preggers and due the week of my wedding and she hasnt officially stepped down yet.  She lives out of state, so I know she cannot and will not travel, but is it ok for me

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One of my bridesmaids is preggers and due the week of my wedding and she hasnt officially stepped down yet.  She lives out of state, so I know she cannot and will not travel, but is it ok for me

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Bridesmaid pregnant and due the week of my wedding

posted at 11/6/2009 11:29 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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One of my bridesmaids is preggers and due the week of my wedding and she hasnt officially stepped down yet. She lives out of state, so I know she cannot and will not travel, but is it ok for me to tell her that I know she will not be able to be there, or is that something she needs to bring up?

Also, my wedding is in 6 months - is it rude to ask someone else now to stand up, or do I just have to be short one bridesmaid?

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posted at 11/6/2009 12:15 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I think if you have established that she will not be there ("will not travel") then it's pretty obvious she won't be a bridesmaid.

If not, next time you talk just say it. GF, since you could very well be having the baby the week of the wedding, I assume you don't want to worry about being a bridesmaid. But I'll miss you!!!!! Oh well, take care of you and that baby!!!

As for inviting someone else, why not? You know your friends, would they be hurt not to be first choice, or thrilled to be included? Should be fun!! Not rude!

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posted at 11/6/2009 12:50 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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Well, why don't you ask her what she thinks about being due the week of the wedding. I think it's something like 2% of babies are actually born on their due date, and many are born in the two weeks prior to the due date- most doctors say "two weeks on either side of this date is normal" so.....ASK her what she thinks! Maybe ask another friend to be a bridesmaid and make her an honorary bridesmaid so she can join in on all the stuff before and then if she makes it, you'll have an extra and if you don't, well, so be it.

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posted at 11/6/2009 2:09 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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If she wants to be part of or give a shower, or pre-wedding stuff, keep her and do not bother about a dress. List her in the program, as unable to be at the altar, but still a best friend and bridesmaid in spirit.
Ask another friend to be a bridesmaid who will be able to travel to the wedding.

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posted at 11/8/2009 6:40 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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This is really a easy decision. As a bride you have to do whats best for your wedding and your pregnant bridesmaid has to do whats best for her baby. This should be a mutal agreement. If she hasnt brought it up then maybe you should before too much time goes on.

As far as asking someone new.... In my opinion its a good idea. But it depends on the type of person you are asking. Me being who I am I dont like to be second. If you didnt ask me the first time then theres no way I would want to do it.

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posted at 11/9/2009 9:33 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I wouldn't want to be asked to be a second-choice bridesmaid. You don't need matching numbers of boys and girls.

Yes, as unusual a solution as this may seem, pick up the phone and talk to each other. I'm sure you are 100% as excited about her new arrival as she is about your wedding. Have you planned a baby shower for her yet, by the way?

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posted at 11/9/2009 9:59 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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Bottom line...... Just make her an Honorary Bridesmaid... surely she knows that she can't stand up... all the attention should be on YOU and not the pregnant bridesmaid.... do something small but special for her to let her know that she is st appreciated

Ms. Sheena 2U

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posted at 11/9/2009 12:50 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I don't think there's anything wrong with asking someone now. It's not a huge deal, and if they make it a huge deal; it would hurt my feelings. If I had my way I'd have a lot of bridesmaids, but it's money involved.

If I was pregnant, I'd say thank you for giving me an out.