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Going Against Tradition... A ceremony followed by a reception

posted at 5/25/2009 11:42 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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My fiance and I have been together for over 5 years now. We have been talking about getting married for 4 yet there has always been a "reason" for post-poning it. We now have a child together, an amazing little boy who is about to turn 1. All of our friends and family went from, "so, when's the big day" to, "why don't you guys go ahead and do it already!" and I was wondering...

I've always dreamed of a beach ceremony yet at the same time wanted to celebrate with all of my loved ones. I don't have tons of money to book everyone a hotel room, etc. So I was thinking of having a beach ceremony with just the family around and then the following weekend having a reception in our home town. I could even incoprorate the ceremony into the reception through pictures/video/etc. My biggest fear though is that, if people weren't at the ceremony would they still show up to the reception?

Another question is, I don't mind inviting everyone to the beach ceremony I just know very few would be able to make it. Should I invite everyone to both or just the reception?

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Have a ceremony one weekend and a reception the next isn't really going against tradition. It sounds lovely.

Where were you thinking of going for a beach ceremony? I would think that in or near Austin, you could find a lakeside spot, or even if you went to the coast, it wouldn't be super far. You will be surprised how many people actually bend over backwards to attend your wedding. My DH was shocked that so many of his cousins hopped on a plane from FL w/ their kids and came to the wedding outside of Boston. I wasn't, b/c everyone loves my DH, but he was stunned. lol.

Invite everyone you want to be there. If cost is your issue, assume that everyone you invite will come and trim the list accordingly. You should invite everyone you invite to the ceremony to the reception and vice versa. I would give people the option of going to the ceremony; let them decide whether they want to make the trip. Don't decide for them. Again, you will be surprised how many people will come. Good luck and have fun planning.

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posted at 5/26/2009 8:18 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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I agree that what you're talking about is actually quite common these days and it sounds wonderful.

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I went to a reception last sunday and the couple did just that. The weekend before they went on a cruise in Florida with their families and had the ceremony and came back to Illinois and had the reception. They didn't invite everyone to the ceremony which I felt okay with - I don't think anyone was concerned with this because the reception had about 100 people at it.

If you are able to, invite everyone to the ceremony as well as the reception. They will go if they can afford it. If not they will see you at the reception.

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posted at 5/26/2009 5:10 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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We did the same... I agree with the previous posters, this is pretty common

Best of luck in your planning, and congratulations!

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart."

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Lots of people have a private ceremony followed by a reception. Not to worry.

I say go for it!

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i say do what makes u and your fiance happy. i have been with my fiance for 18 years, we have 2 kids to gether and just decided to get married. we are havin a civil ceremony on friday and a huge reception on saturday. he is very shy and private and does not want to have a ceremony in front of all those ppl. i dont think anyone would care if really...

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posted at 5/28/2009 5:46 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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You know, some people are so crazy about "traditions." (Not trying to kill any puppies here, but...) This is your and your fiancee's day. Have a small ceremony with the two of you and a priest/minister/ordained friend and have the reception whenever you want.

I think it's a great idea to include pictures and/or video of the ceremony. Use it as part of a game, when you two say "I do" have everyone take a shot :)

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My Cousin did the exact same thing.

Got married in Antigua and told everyone they were welcome to attend and provided the details of the resort etc... but also said that there would be a reception when they got home.

It was beautiful! It gave the bridal party an opportunity to wear their wedding day outfits a second time and they had a DVD running on a screen in the corner showing the wedding ceremnoy.

There's no need to wrry about numbers at all! There are many advantages to this method! Especially as you don't have to mention the "wedding" word, which inevitably increases the costs of everything, and you can be miles more flexible with dates, as it would only be an evening people would need to be free for!

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We're doing something similar. Because we are a same-sex couple, we have to get married a long way from where we live. We're having a very small ceremony (under 20 people) in MA, followed by a simple luncheon in the private dining room of a restaurant. Three days later, we're having a reception for 80-100 people back home. We're not inviting all 100 people to MA with us. However, no one so far has been offended by just being invited to the reception.

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Lots of people have a private ceremony followed by a reception. Not to worry. I say go for it!
Posted by Stinky Wizzelteats

     This actually is one very traditional custom. Many people have always chosen to do vows in a private setting, or at home.

     Those who say, if they won't invite me to the main event, why go to the party?... follow a separate tradition, perhaps that of many churches that consider every marriage to be a religious one, in a house of worship open to everyone. Followed by a collation for all.

     Two very different traditions that have both been established for centuries can still both exist. People should not take offense when someone marries by a different custom.
     If you care for the people involved, have a little understanding.

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posted at 9/8/2009 12:02 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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I'm doing something like that. I was raised in Vancouver, WA and moved to Phoenix, AZ 3 years ago for work where my fiance and I both curently live. We are getting married at our church down here, and then having a second reception in Vancouver 2 weeks later before we leave on our honeymoon. We got the idea from my uncle, who lives in Boston, he and his wife were married in New York where his wife was raised then had a second casual reception in Vancouver for friends and family who coudln't attend the ceremony.

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Well if you think that is going against tradition, I am having a pre-wedding reception followed by a ceremony in the Bahamas. With over 200 people invited, most will be attending. I just put on the invitation to "please join us for a pre-wedding reception at..... and then i stated "a seaside wedding ceremony will take place on... I got both events on the invitations, everyone is certainly invited to both. However, I have known for a while now who was attending the Bahamas and the hardships for others who will not be able to attend. I was just happy that my immediate and his immediate families are going. My grandma was the only one upset that we were having it so far away and she now refuses to go. I'm not mad, it was our decision and her choice to stay home. Best of Luck!!! :)

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posted at 11/4/2009 8:17 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I am doing the same thing! getting married in Central Park in NYC on 4/10/2010 surrounded by parents, grandparents, and the wedding party. then on 4/17 we will have a full reception at a fire hall near our home. what we are going to do is go to RENT A CENTER and rent a huge TV for the day. then we are going to show the wedding video and when it is done the "DJ" (using a friend with my computer hooked up to a decent speaker system and a regular mic like you use to voice chat) will announce us and we will enter. by doing it this way i am also able to cook the food myself with the help of my parents and the entire wedding is only going to cost 2000. think how much more DIY you can do this way bc you aren't prepping for both at the same time! i have been planning this wedding like this for wuite a while if u need ideas to help save money i'd b glad to help(i have a child with my fiance as well and i know how tight a budget can B!)

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posted at 11/5/2009 9:57 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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Be like a Nike tennis shoe....and just doit! On the real, do what you want and what makes you happy...I love the idea...less fuss and prep...this way you can be comfy and not have to tug around in your gown (unless you change)...I would however wear something that makes you stand out from the crowd...something that says...YOU ARE THE BRIDE...and not a guest...maybe a nice white/cream/ivory or whatever color you choose cocktail dress...if it's that type of reception...that would be a great idea...best of luck either way...

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posted at 11/8/2009 7:31 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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Nothing wrong with what you want to do. If you want a small ceremony with just family and close friends and then want to have a large reception go for it. It is rude to invite guests to just the ceremony and not the reception but it is fine to have a small ceremony and a large reception.

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