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posted at 10/30/2009 9:14 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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The problem started when we got engaged. My future brother-in-law got engaged 6 months after us and planned their wedding for 3 months after ours. I just found out that my future husbands sister-in-law is in their wedding party and I am not. I need some advice on what to do about this WEDDING WAR that is going on in his family's house. Should I be offended with all of the situations that are going on?

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posted at 11/2/2009 7:31 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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No, not at all. I would actually be a little relieved to tell you the truth. You are going to have so much going on with your own wedding! Those few months after you get married can be stressful enough without having to help plan someone else's wedding. Think of it this way. You can help voluntarily without any percieved obligations. Also, think of the money you will save on not having to buy the dress and accessories.

Ultimately, remember that it has nothing to do with popularity or who is the better relative. It is about the couple and maybe they either 1) felt closer to the other person or 2) knew how busy you would be with your wedding and decided to give you a break. Do not take it as a snub. From what you wrote, it does not sound like anything malicious is going on. Good luck and focus on your big day!

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posted at 11/2/2009 11:56 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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It is only a war if both parties participate. I agree with PP. Give them the benefit of the doubt. They probably have no intention of slighting you.

~Amanda

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posted at 11/2/2009 12:13 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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You should not be offended and do your best to disengage from any ongoing wedding wars. As others said, focus on your wedding and making it everything you want it to be. Don't worry about theirs.

Good luck.

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posted at 11/3/2009 2:57 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I agree with Ariel, you should focus on your wedding, and what's best for your wedding party. There is no obligation really for her to include you in her wedding party and vice versa, this is a want, not a need =)

Best of luck!

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart."

~ Mrs K ~
~ March 21st 2009 ~

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posted at 11/11/2009 11:47 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I agree with the other women. Do not take this personal, it is not about you.....Now of course you're going to express how you feel to your fiance. Who doesn't talk to their mate about every little thing (lol) You have your own wedding to plan and just maybe they took that into consideration.

DON'T BE A DRAMA QUEEN