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Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

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I asked my now-fiance to ask my Dad, not because either of us felt his permission was needed, but because my fiance is very quiet. I thought it would be a great way to endear him to my parents, who mean the world to me, and to bring him closer to my family. Ultimately, it's my decision, but I'm really glad my fiance asked my Dad. I got to hear second-hand what he said to my Dad and it was really sweet :o)

My fiance said he would have asked my Mom too, but he ran out of time. I think in reality, he's a little scared of her or her questions, ha ha!

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

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My FH talked to both of my parents before he asked me. We are both independent and didn't need permission but it was a nice gesture and made them feel special and important. I am not traditional at all but didn't mind him talking to them at all. it's not like we had never discussed marriage before or anything. :) We would have gotten engaged either way but having a happy family in the process makes everything smoother.
He told my mom he was planning on asking me in a month but was asking them early (we were visiting them as they live 6hrs away) but he was so excited he asked me that very night in Monterey.

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

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That's cute, my FH asked both of my parents together and he said also that it was my mom who had questions and was harder to win over (although they both love him dearly) he was sweating bullets but isn't it cute

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posted at 11/7/2009 8:07 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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I was very up front with my fiancee and told him that I would prefer that he ask my dad. My parents knew it was coming and when he called to see if he could come out they couldn't have been more excited. It was a 2 hour conversation (I am told) but everything is perfect now. I wouldn't have it any other way!

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

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I'm not traditional about most things, but I would never want to marry a guy my dad (or mom) didn't approve of. The chat my FI had with my dad was a great opportunity for them to get to know each other better. I think my dad "laid down the law" about how he expected for me to be treated and what would happen if he ever hurt me...things like that. It was probably similar to the speech he got from my grandfather. But they also joked and had fun. My FI now likes to tell people that my dad said "no refunds, even with receipt". LOL. They are really good friends now.

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

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My parents are far from traditional, they are fairly young parents (early 40s and i'm 25) and were never married to each other, so it was not necessary to them for my fiance to ask for their permission but he did anyways. He asked my mom the night before he proposed. My fiance was not able to get in touch with my father until the day after he proposed but he still asked anyways and both of my parents thought that was sweet of him. My dad was actually so excited that he went on and on about how much he LOVES my fiance! Something i have never heard him say about another man who was not a relative.

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I really couldn't think of a more disrespectful thing than asking my father's permission, so I'm glad my DH had the sense not to. Not only would I have been pissed to be treated as a child or someone's property, my dad would've lost all respect for him, I'm sure.

I'm a friggin adult and a man's equal. WTF does my dad's opinion enter into any of this?

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It was very important to him I think, to make sure my parents approved. He asked my mum and then asked my dad the next day when he came to visit... My little brother was listening in though and scampered up to me straight away and told me!

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posted at 11/7/2009 8:36 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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Hi,
Yes he did ask my dad. I too was older( 33) and I had been married before.But my husband still wanted to ask.He felt it was the "proper" thing to do. I spoke with a close male friend about this as I didnt feel it was necessary as I am a adult and have a child as well. He told me that it wasn't fair of me to ask him not not talk to my father as this was his first marriage and it is what he wanted to do.But I have to love my dad as he said" Have you asked Simone?(my daughter...) Gotta love my Dad.....BTW he had asked my daughter first before my dad.....

Cindy

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

posted at 11/8/2009 4:25 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

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haha, no. I told my dad that I was marrying this guy before he even asked. I told him not to be suprised. :)

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     With me, my father would either have asked if the guy had the right house - since his daughter was responsible for her own life.

     Or, as when an idiot boyfriend of one of my sisters did ask, told him that any female young enough not to know her own mind or to need her father's permission was to young to legally marry. Words that preceeded his opening the door and saying, now get out.

     That relationship fell apart on its own a while later, when boyfriend was explaining to sis how great it would be when she quit her job, stopped all her girlfriend type stuff, and settled down to a life of spoiling her man, as a woman should. Suddenly love was not so blind.
     What she later told me she told him, in front of the folks at table when he said it, was unprintable.
     But most all his stuff was already out the window when he got out of the elevator and went out the door.

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My FI did not ask my dad. To be honest he didn't need to. He already had my families blessing. They keep asking him, "ARE YOU SURE YOU WANNA MARRY TIFFANNIE"? Maybe I should have asked his family for their blessings? LOl!

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My FI asked for my father's permission, more as a gesture of respect than for actual permission, since he knows how close my father and I am and that I'm a huge Daddy's girl. My father later said that my FI didn't need to ask, but he really appreciated the fact that he did. My FI told me that my father gave him a really long handshake, and I think the fact that my FI took the initiative to take my father aside when they were alone and ask him man to man (my father can be a scary man for guys to deal with) made me father really respect my FI. I'm really happy he asked :).

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I think he only asked b/c I told him to... LOL.

but he did get my dad a bottle of Jack Daniels when he went to ask, which was his idea, and a nice touch.

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

posted at 11/9/2009 10:03 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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So what if dad says "NO" then what?
A: you are going to marry him any way because its your decision!

Ms. Sheena 2U

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posted at 11/9/2009 10:51 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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My fiance not only asked my dad's blessing, he asked my mom, and my older brother too! My FI knows how much they all mean to me and he really wanted them to be a part of our special day. We have been together for almost 7 years so everyone knew it was happening soon, but the gesture was definitely a sign of repect.

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Re: Poll of the Week: Did he ask for Dad's permission?

posted at 11/9/2009 11:47 AM CST on weddingchannel.com

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No way. He wanted to ask my dad's permission, but although my dad and I are inseparable and talk everyday, I had an idea that he was planning to propose and requested that he didn't do that out of respect for me. People say that asking is a sign of respect, but how is it respectful if my father is making my decisions for me and knows that I'm getting engaged before I even do?!?! I mean, of course I want my dad to like my fiance -- and he does -- but I am a grown woman and can make my decisions on my own. Which is why I'm not being walked down the aisle. I love my dad and we are inseparable, but I don't need to be walked down the aisle and "given away" as if I am a piece of property (that's where the tradition originates). My dad asked me why my fiance didn't ask for permission and I told him exactly why. He didn't seem to get it...probably because we're still living in a man's world. You don't hear of women calling up their future mother-in-law for permission to marry their son. I'm not exactly feminist, but the older I get and the more stuff like this that I see, the more feminist I'm becoming. The RESPECT came after we got engaged and joyfully informed our parents of our plans for marriage and asked for their best wishes/blessing.

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My father doesn't have an active role in my life.

My fiance asked my Pastors permission, which was very appropriate for us, since we are both very active in our churches, and i am very close to my Pastor.

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He did. He asked my dad 3 days before he proposed. My dad was really touched. Even though we're not a hugely traditional family, he really appreciated the fact that my FI asked for my hand.

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"Did your fiance ask your father's permission? And what did you think about it?"

permission for what?

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