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Already Living Together - What to Register For?
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Already Living Together - What to Register For?

posted at 11/4/2009 12:15 PM CST on weddingchannel.com
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We already live together and are generally happy with what we have for our furnishings - eventually we'll want a house instead of an apartment, but we don't have room in our apartment to keep lots of gifts from the bridal shower/wedding.

Since we have most of the typical items that would normally be on a wedding registry (sheets and bedding, dishware, kitchen appliances...) - what is acceptable to ask for? I know you're not supposed to ask for money, but I'd still feel weird say, registering for a computer with windows 7 (we have xp and our desktop doesn't have the specs needed for 7 plus it's a pain to upgrade since you have to partition the computer and...it's just painful). Also - tech items tend to be expensive and guests wouldn't have the money to pay for it anyway. 

What should I do?

-Jenny

Re: Already Living Together - What to Register For?

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You don't have to register at all; in that case most people will more than likely give a monetary gift or gift cards to stores you like.

You can register on Amazon for things like electronics.


You can register for other types of non-traditional items; DH and I registered for wine, and one of my cousins registered at Sears for tools.


Don't totally discount registering for a few select household items, either. You don't have to go crazy and ask for all new furnishings, but it's always a treat to upgrade to new sheets, or maybe some nicer pots and pans...  

Good luck.   :)

Re: Already Living Together - What to Register For?

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We live together too so we registered for fewer items then the typical couple as well.

We registered for sheets and towels and other household items we can store away and pull out in a few years. 

Re: Already Living Together - What to Register For?

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We lived together for 4 years before we were separated due to work. I can't emphasize the one thing a gf's aunt told me.

This wedding isn't just for today, it's for forever. Just because you're in an apartment today, doesn't mean you'll be there forever. We are starting to think about upgrading some of our stuff, getting nicer sheets, etc. However, we're also registering for electronics (we're registering at target), some hardware, etc.  You have something you want to register for outside the box, I say go for it.  A lot of people will hesitate to give money. They want to give a gift.

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Tech items can be expensive,but several people may be able to go in together to get one gift.

Another idea is to do a honeymoon registry,where you pick a destination and people can pick different aspects of your honeymoon(hotel,outing,dinner,etc) and pay for it. I have seen plenty of different websites for it.

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We also lived together, had all the household items we needed, felt no need to "upgrade" to more stuff, etc., and definitely didn't want or need a wedding shower. 

We did need new everyday dishes, so I went to BB+B and registered for that and a few other items. 

When people asked my MOH what to get us, she told them we were saving up for a new living room set.  We got almost all cash gifts. 

I dislike the idea of a honeymoon registry because there are fees, service charges, what if you have to postpone the honeymoon, and why not just get good old cash.  Depends on where you live, some people think they are fine, in other areas, not so much. 

Best wishes! 

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You could also register for small post-wedding related items like photo albums and picture frames. You could also go through your appliances and things and see what could be upgraded a little bit. You might have an appliance that will need a replacement soon like a toaster, microwave, coffee pot, etc. You could also get some extra bath towels and things like that. Or put gift cards on your registry. That way you can use them for whatever you want.

We moved right before we registered and we went through the things we had and threw away anything that had gone a long distance with us and could be upgraded. I had a lot of hand-me-down items from my parents and sister so we registered for newer things like pots and pans, a new crock pot, a stove top griddle. Just little things like that that while we already had them, they had gotten pretty dinged and banged through the years.

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Yes, everyone can use photo frames. We got one or two really nice photo frames. 

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I found a site called myregistry.com. You can set up buttons so that people can give cash toward a specific item like say the down payment on that house. I can't remember what fees there were, but it's worth checking it out. Honeymoon registries vary greatly so take the time to carefully compare their fees. (Some charge both the gift giver and gift receiver fees) Some travel companies (Disney, Backroads) don't charge any fees if you travel with them. I registered for a few items at Target for those people who can't bear to give money. I also had my mom and sisters suggest gift cards to Lowes or cash to help us spruce up the home we purchased in May.
~Amanda

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Me and my FH have been together for a while. I registered more towels and quilts bed spreads, a new set of everyday dishes. A lot of picture frames and photo albums. I figure after the honeymoon I'm gonna want to hang pictures so why not have frames. Besides, you can never have to many frames.
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We did a lot of towels.  DH had itchy worn out holey bachelor towels and I only had 5 to my name.  So we registered for those.

We generally registered for things that neither one of us had a good set of.  I registered for new kitchen stuff since I planned on doing a lot more cooking.

That was mainly it, towels and kitchen stuff.   We did register for sheet since neither of us had a good pair. We ended up not getting those but someone else gave us a 300 thread count pair of sheets from Bed Bath & Beyond.

I am happier with them than the ones I registered for!Smile

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     Register for a cedar chest to which you can add a padded seat, apt size, and towels, sheets, and a few tablecloths, for one day to come.  when you do get a house, you will find it tough to purchased beds for guests, never mind any bedding for guest beds, or for yourself.

     If you choose a well known retailer-Staples, Office Depot - it is okay to register for one or 2 big ticket items.  Some people who do not like to give money (then find it was used to pay bills) will either go in with another person, or give you 300-500 toward a computer.  At the very least it will then be that much more reasonable for you.  If you have a monitor, printer, things that you want to be compatible and functional together as parts of your set up, you can specify just the parts you want.
     Primary home computers are now considered a main home furnishing, unless they are such expensive,  entertainment oriented (with set ups for surround sound in 4 rooms, command center for blah blah blah ) choices.  They have replaced silver service as a household must have.
     If your total registry is 10 - 15 household things, and separately, items for a computer set up, you might be surprised.  
      Alternately, you might find as my non-techie sister and BIL did, that a grad student in engineering friend with little money for gifts but lots of skills might build you a custom computer with the processor, memory capability in hard drive, and software installed, with the gifts of money and certificates from others.  More hours and expertise than they could ever have, small money for an incredible set up tailored to their high graphics and photography processing needs for their 2 home businesses.

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We are in a similar situation and are doing the same thing as amandacj and registering with myregistry.com. This way you can just pick things you like and not worry about how many different stores you choose from. We are also thinking about setting up a honeymoon fund, but my grandparents have been hinting that they might be paying for our honeymoon as their present, so I don't know yet. Just find things you might not neccessarily need but really want! That's way more fun than picking everything from bed bath & beyond anyway!

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Even if you are living together, you should definitely still register.  I have worked in the registry business for almost three years and can tell you that if you do not register or register for only a few items, you will get items that you do not want, need, like and/or have room for.  Not all of your guests will just give money or a gift card, they want to feel like a- they are bringing an actual gift to the wedding/shower and b- that in 20 years, you will remember that they bought that item for you.  I know it sounds crazy but I see it on a daily basis.  Sooo a couple other posters had great ideas- update items that you already have that may be getting old and of need of replacement in the near future.  (Are you dishes missing pieces or chipped?  Are your towels worn?  Does your toaster keep shutting off?)  Upgrading items is also an idea, you may have a very basic cookware set now but if you will be cooking and entertaining more in the future, it will be something that you will want to register for.  Same with sheets, you may have basic sheets right now so put a nicer set on your registry.  You are picking out items for your future together so keep that in mind.  Also putting items away for the future is a great idea.  You may not have room at your place right now but your parents or in laws may not mind storing some items for you until you move into a larger space.  Registering someplace like Target or Walmart is great because you can put great electronic items (like your computer) on your registry.  Plus putting big items on your registry makes it easy for people going in on a gift for you. (coworkers, couple of aunts, ect doing a group gift)  Dont forget about giftware like frames and perhaps a vase or even your Wedding Toasting Flutes and dessert set!  Those are specials items that people love buying and if you do not give your guests an idea of what you like, they will pick it out for you!  Then you will be stuck with it or will go through the hassle of returning it. 

I am in a similar position as you.  We have a small apt right now and have everything basically that we need.  So I put new kitchen electrics on my registry because mine are getting old plus some new items to make my entertaining life easier in the future.  (kitchenaid mixer, cuisinart duet blender/food processor combo)  And I also upgraded my stuff (better towels, nicer down comforter, ect)  Most of that stuff i will use when I get it and then throw away or donate the old.  I also wanted fine china so I worked it out that I will keep a few settings at my place then my mom will store the rest at her house.  (She joked that she was going to put hers away and display mine in her cabinet because she was sick of hers after 20+ years)  We will probably go to target to do some electronic stuff and few other items.  (Fiancee wants a Play Station 3, ipod docking station, ect) 

Hope that helped a little!

Re: Already Living Together - What to Register For?

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i have this same delima.  i have been with my fiance for almost 4 years and we joined our households three years ago.  the most i have been able to think of that we could use is new dishes and flatware.  i also am planning to add bed linen and towels to my registry.  other than that we have whatever we could need.

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