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I'm having a black and white wedding can I ask my guests to wear only black and white?

General Wedding Etiquette

I'm having a black and white wedding can I ask my guests to wear only black and white?

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We are going for a very classy look/feel wedding. And everything is black and white, is it ok to ask our guests to please follow a dress code of only black and white also?

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General Wedding Etiquette

I'm having a black and white wedding can I ask my guests to wear only black and white?

<font color="#ffffff">From the big decisions to the little details, discuss wedding day basics here.</font>

We are going for a very classy look/feel wedding. And everything is black and white, is it ok to ask our guests to please follow a dress code of only black and white also?

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I'm having a black and white wedding can I ask my guests to wear only black and white?

posted at 6/29/2009 3:53 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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We are going for a very classy look/feel wedding. And everything is black and white, is it ok to ask our guests to please follow a dress code of only black and white also?

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We are going for a very classy look/feel wedding. And everything is black and white, is it ok to ask our guests to please follow a dress code of only black and white also?
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posted at 6/29/2009 6:09 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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Edicate for the most part dictates that you should not put on your invatation a dress code. However, if people ask you about your wedding, you could say something like, "we are having a black and white themed wedding, if you want to follow along with it that would be great!" If someone is planning on throwing you a shower maybe they will keep up with the theme too, and that could also let the guests know that the wedding will be along the same line.

The bottom line is that you should not outright tell your guests how to dress. It should be their choice. If they want to follow the theme great, but don't force them.

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Agreed: nope, you can't dictate what colors they can and cannot wear.

They'll look fine in anything.

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posted at 6/29/2009 6:12 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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Nope. Keep the theme with other aspects of your wedding. Guests aren't part of the decor.

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posted at 6/29/2009 8:10 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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I think actually this could work if you handle it properly.

[In the words of Hillary Clinton, I'm donning my "asbestos pantsuit" now, because dress code always seems to be a heated issue...] :-P

As Misma said, get the word out, but don't FORCE people to wear black and white, and don't insist on it being uber-formal. For example, if I was a guest and could wear a black sundress with white polka dots (that I own), I'd probably think a black & white wedding was kind of fun and old-Hollywood glam...if I was told I must wear an evening gown (something I don't own), not so much. I know that a tradtional 40's black & white wedding was very high glamour, but I think you should leave the very fancy look to the bridal party, venue, invitations, etc. Let your guests play along at a more casual level if they want to (and don't be upset if they don't).

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posted at 6/29/2009 8:50 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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You can ask, but a goodly number of your guests will think you're a weirdo if you do.

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my wedding was also black and white themed. I didn't ask for a dress code but I wish it wasn't improper and I could have! Half the guests showed up in jean shorts! For half a second it bothered me...but I imagine it bothered them more when they saw how formal everything else was.

No. You shouldn't ask them to. But you can spread from word of mouth. I am certain someone will ask your parents or his parents what they should wear and just have them say it would nice to add a touch of the theme to their outfit of choice.

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posted at 6/30/2009 6:16 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com