Wedding Planning - Wedding Dresses - Wedding Gifts - Wedding Website

couple

site

Community

Message Boards

General Wedding Planning Topics

General Wedding Etiquette

Just Engaged

DIY Brides

Ceremonies and Wedding Vows

Wedding Receptions

Bridal Party

Fashion and Health and Beauty

Wedding Drama

Emotional Support

Honeymoon

Destination Weddings

Chit Chat

Just Married

Vendor Board

Ask a Vendor

Bridal Blog Roll

Bridal Blogs

Journals

Journals

Community Links

Read our Rules

Get a Badge

Wedding Registry:
Etiquette 101

Wedding Music:
DJ Upgrades

Honeymoon:
Find your destination

General Wedding Planning Topics

Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ec

Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

General Wedding Etiquette

Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

<font color="#ffffff">From the big decisions to the little details, discuss wedding day basics here.</font>

We're having our wedding at a B&B and are allowed up to 25 people for the reception to be held there.  We have a couple of relatives who have said they'd like to come, and we need to find out

False

General Wedding Etiquette

Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

<font color="#ffffff">From the big decisions to the little details, discuss wedding day basics here.</font>

We're having our wedding at a B&B and are allowed up to 25 people for the reception to be held there.  We have a couple of relatives who have said they'd like to come, and we need to find out

Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8

Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8Discussion:826f6a52-999d-4bea-bfb9-6eb2202de8e1

[
						{"Key" : "Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8Discussion:826f6a52-999d-4bea-bfb9-6eb2202de8e1Post:086c129a-6e0a-4f07-80da-3879348d0044","Timestamp" : new Date(2009, 10, 5, 15, 43, 31, 578)} ,					{"Key" : "Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8Discussion:826f6a52-999d-4bea-bfb9-6eb2202de8e1Post:735ee5fc-877f-437c-b4e0-36d1e1404fa0","Timestamp" : new Date(2009, 10, 5, 17, 14, 49, 228)} ,					{"Key" : "Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8Discussion:826f6a52-999d-4bea-bfb9-6eb2202de8e1Post:d13a5a38-cb89-43b2-a910-f945adc1f368","Timestamp" : new Date(2009, 10, 5, 18, 8, 31, 405)} ,					{"Key" : "Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8Discussion:826f6a52-999d-4bea-bfb9-6eb2202de8e1Post:88bc92db-0eff-48ad-acc3-c1b92c482a39","Timestamp" : new Date(2009, 10, 5, 18, 19, 45, 534)} ,					{"Key" : "Cat:336d8010-1fcd-4410-9356-c39e985527ecForum:ca593c8a-9d29-4c6f-ac16-bce735c238a8Discussion:826f6a52-999d-4bea-bfb9-6eb2202de8e1Post:3f53112f-a112-4843-a424-04b688c46dff","Timestamp" : new Date(2009, 10, 5, 20, 43, 0, 167)} 				]

Forums > General Wedding Planning Topics > General Wedding Etiquette > Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

You must be logged in to contribute. Log in | Register

Forums > General Wedding Planning Topics > General Wedding Etiquette > Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

posted at 11/5/2009 3:43 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

xoShawnxo

Joined on
10-16-2009

7570913224991598

Posts: 5

First: 11/5/2009

Last: 11/5/2009

We're having our wedding at a B&B and are allowed up to 25 people for the reception to be held there. We have a couple of relatives who have said they'd like to come, and we need to find out if they actually intend to do so. They could possibly stay at the B&B (along with us) and we need to know if they'd like to do that...We still haven't sent out our save-the-dates or turned on our wedding website, but the B&B folks need to know the number of guests, we need to know if they are seriously planning to come-- if so, great. If not, we can bump them for some others who'd like to come and we'd like to invite. Kind of an A-list B-list dilemma.

Would you call and ask them flat out, or??? How would you handle this with good manners??

Report Abuse

REPLY QUOTE Private Message

Re: Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

posted at 11/5/2009 5:14 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

banana2007

Joined on
09-26-2005

678662575003194

Posts: 255

First: 5/8/2009

Last: 11/19/2009

Just send them invitations.

Report Abuse

REPLY QUOTE Private Message

Re: Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

posted at 11/5/2009 6:08 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

xoShawnxo

Joined on
10-16-2009

7570913224991598

Posts: 5

First: 11/5/2009

Last: 11/5/2009

Thanks, but we need to know before we send out invitations what their plans are....does that make sense?

If they aren't seriously planning to attend, we will have those invitations available to others who are more likely to attend.

How did a small wedding get complicated so quickly, LOL.??

Report Abuse

REPLY QUOTE Private Message

Re: Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

posted at 11/5/2009 6:19 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

NikkiC06

Joined on
07-14-2009

6714831865304842

Posts: 57

First: 7/14/2009

Last: 11/20/2009

Why not just pick up a telephone and call and ask those you wish to invite? Im assuming if you're only allowed 25 people, you must be pretty close to them. I dont see where manners would come in with a simple "Hi! We are planning on getting married xx/xx/xxxx in Smalltown. We have limited space, so I need an early head count. Do you think you can make it?"

How early do the B&B people need to know your head count? If you havent even sent out STDs, then Im assuming you must still be fairly far away from your date. I cant see why the B&B would need the information THIS far in advance.

Report Abuse

REPLY QUOTE Private Message

Re: Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...

posted at 11/5/2009 8:43 PM CST on weddingchannel.com

WhatawagSBNy

Joined on
08-15-2008
NEW HAMPSHIRE

5451543958318906

Posts: 932

First: 6/19/2009

Last: 11/20/2009

In Response to Re: Need to find out who's planning to attend from out of state...:

Thanks, but we need to know before we send out invitations what their plans are....does that make sense? If they aren't seriously planning to attend, we will have those invitations available to others who are more likely to attend. How did a small wedding get complicated so quickly, LOL.??
Posted by xoShawnxo

We had more spaces (125 plus wedding party and parents) but needed to reserve a whole Inn with restaurant (closed for holiday weekend except us) and either a resort motel or 2 B & B's very close, in another state. And only a 5 month engagement. So we bit the bullet and called. Since we have large families, everyone was either close family or friend.

Everyone was very nice about it, gave a definate yes, definate NO, or a few, maybe, depending on something (for 2 couples, childbirth.) The maybes were 4% of total, so we went with numbers for the yeses plus maybes, reserved and paid our deposits. Final invitations only went to these people, who had all booked rooms by then except the maybes, whom they allowed us to reserve but not pay.

Took all the stress away in July for the October wedding. 25 people, so close, should be very understanding. Good luck!

Report Abuse

REPLY QUOTE Private Message