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What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
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What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
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I'm sure something like this has been on here before. We've decided to get married in Niagara Falls, Canada because we like it there and for budget reasons (we are paying for our wedding) I've never
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What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
<font color="#ffffff">From the big decisions to the little details, discuss wedding day basics here.</font>
I'm sure something like this has been on here before. We've decided to get married in Niagara Falls, Canada because we like it there and for budget reasons (we are paying for our wedding) I've never
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What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/2/2012 9:45 AM EST
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I'm sure something like this has been on here before. We've decided to get married in Niagara Falls, Canada because we like it there and for budget reasons (we are paying for our wedding) I've never wanted a large wedding so just us and our kids (20, 16, &1.5- the two older are from his previous mariiage) were going to make a small long weekend out of it, which was perfect for me! Of course, now my family is saying they want to be there and I am excluding them. We'd like to have a reception with family and friends, but it might not be til much later for budget reasons. I don't mind people coming if they want, but I know most of my family can't afford it. Call me greedy, but we were hoping to get some cash to fund some of trip from gifts. So what invite/announcement do you send? And how do you phrase it? My fear is that they do show up and I don't get my intimate wedding or any gifts....
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/2/2012 6:14 PM EST
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You can't not invite people AND expect gifts. Have a wedding that you can afford. If you are having a reception at a later date that's when you'll receive your gifts.
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/3/2012 10:05 PM EST
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You can send invitations & you can write I want gifts on the invitations, but I wouldn't expect gifts. I don't know about most people, but I don't like being told what to do. Now when it comes to weddings & wedding receptions, I say most people will bring either gifts or money if they can afford it. Have a wedding you can afford. If you get gifts, then great, but if you don't, at least you are not in debt.
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/7/2012 11:47 AM EST
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I'm sure I'm misunderstanding your post. I know that you don't mean that you expect people to give you cash/gifts if you are not inviting them to the wedding. Obviously, there is NO way of finessing wording to make that kind of wish polite.
You might want to call a couple of hotels and find out if all your guests stay in a particular hotel, what can they do to provide an inexpensive buffet supper. It's worth a try.
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/10/2012 9:21 AM EST
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I agree. You cannot NOT invite someone to your wedding and then expect them to give you a gift.
At any rate you cannot specify you want cash in lieu of something else. That's the best way to get nothing.
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/10/2012 12:18 PM EST
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In Response to Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?:
I agree. You cannot NOT invite someone to your wedding and then expect them to give you a gift. At any rate you cannot specify you want cash in lieu of something else. That's the best way to get nothing.
Posted by Lorie0322
You might not get nothing....some guests would feel compelled to give an etiquette book! :)
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 2/10/2012 10:11 PM EST
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I agree with the other posts on here. You can't NOT invite people and then hope they'll still send you something. You usually get gifts - money or otherwise, at the reception so if you plan on having that at a later date then that'll be when you receive the money. You also said you're planning on using some of the money you get to fund your trip to Niagara Falls? and you also said you're getting married there for budget reasons - I don't mean to sound rude but you might need to do some more budgeting if you are hoping your wedding guests (who you don't want to invite) are going to foot part of the bill for your private ceremony... why not invite just your parents and ask them for some help financially, since it sounds like you might need it- or wait a while and save up some money until you can afford it without having to rely on monetary gifts from the uninvited guests...
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 3/2/2012 11:49 AM EST
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In Response to Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?:
In Response to Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts? : You might not get nothing....some guests would feel compelled to give an etiquette book! :)
Posted by cosmogirlWed144626
Very true. I hadn't thought of that.
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Re: What do we send/write? And how do we weasel some gifts?
posted at 3/12/2012 3:47 PM EDT
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If you don't want the people who love you to be there, you send them a wedding announcement after the fact. They will probably not send you gifts. That's pretty much your only choice at this point.
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