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Should i invite a co-worker?

General Wedding Etiquette

Should i invite a co-worker?

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I have been planning my wedding for over a year and a half (the wedding is two months away and I'm just about ready to send out all the invites) and I work at a bank but the location that I work at is

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General Wedding Etiquette

Should i invite a co-worker?

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Should i invite a co-worker?

posted at 6/30/2009 11:03 PM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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I have been planning my wedding for over a year and a half (the wedding is two months away and I'm just about ready to send out all the invites) and I work at a bank but the location that I work at is really small, I have about 5 co-workers there. We recently had someone switch to a different location and hired someone new (roughly 2 months ago). I have had my list of people to invite done for quite awhile and i dont want to add anymore guests but now I'm not sure if I need to add this person. Being that I work in such a small office all of us are pretty good friends so my wedding is always talked about at work so the new guy obviously knows about it. Problem is I don't really like this guy and neither does most of the others at my office. I was the one that trained him and this guy just rubs me the wrong way. We all suspect that he is doing drugs and stealing while at work and we all think that its only a matter of time before he gets fired ( I had a customer today say that this guy pocketed $500 from a deposit she brought in that he ran!). Plus I'm not all that comfortable around this guy nor have I ever met his wife to make it a joint invitation if it comes down to that I should invite him. I'm not a confrontational person at all so I dont want to have to argue with this guy on why everyone else but him got an invite to the wedding. What do I do? I really honestly dont want him at my wedding, I don't want to waste an invitation if hes just going to get fired in the near future, that and if he gets fired what if hes dumb enough to still show up? If i should just suck it up and invite him do I invite the wife I've never met? I'm just so confused as to what the right way to play this one out. PLEASE HELP!!!

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Re: Should i invite a co-worker?

posted at 7/1/2009 12:11 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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Hi,
I think that since you do not even remotly sound as if you like or want this person there that I would invite him. If you were at least cordial with him I would say to at least send ut an invite.However,this doesn"t seem to be the case.If you do decide to invite hima nd he gets fired beforehand I would think he would be embarrased to show up at your wedding after a termation.Let us know what you decide.Sorry I didn't do the poll but I had too much to add.It wasn't a simple yes or no for me.

Cindy

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Re: Should i invite a co-worker?

posted at 7/1/2009 8:17 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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You can not NOT invite one half ofa married couple. It doesn't matter if you have never met the spouse. If you invite a married man or woman, you have to invite their spouse.

That being said, I don't understand why you are stressing about this. Clearly, you are not friends w/ this guy. There is no reason to invite him at all. In fact, since it doesn't sound like you get along w/ him at all, he'd probably prefer not to get an invitation. Then he doesn't have to worry about a gift. :-) Good luck!

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Re: Should i invite a co-worker?

posted at 7/1/2009 8:56 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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I would not invite him. If he asks, I would say that you had already made out the invitatins before he came to work with you and given a head count to the caterer. It sounds like you do not like him at all anyway, so don't worry what he thinks or says. From what you have explained, it sounds like he will not be there for much longer anyway.

Don't worry about this. Your wedding should be for your friends and family that you want there. And your co-workers would probably be much happier there without him!

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Re: Should i invite a co-worker?

posted at 7/1/2009 9:38 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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If you work at a bank and you suspect (along with others) that this guy is stealing, what makes you think that he's not going to try to walk off with the gift card basket at your wedding?? Besides, you do not like him and you are not friends with him. Just because you work with somebody doesn't mean you should invite them to the most intimate ceremony of your life. Heck, I work with 60 people but I dont' think I'm inviting any of them because I'm not close with them. I think if you invite this guy to your wedding, it could mean bad news. If he's already got sticky fingers, he might feel free to sample the bartender's tip jar or as I previously said, walk away with the card basket. I say definitely don't invite him. One rule I'm following for who I invite to my wedding is asking myself, "Have I spent time with this person in the past year or two? Have we kept in touch since then? Do I see us being friends in the next 5 years?" If the answer is no to any one or two of these questions, I don't think I'm going to invite them.

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Re: Should i invite a co-worker?

posted at 7/2/2009 12:20 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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alright i think i have decided to not invite this guy. I talked to the only other girl i work with at my office who just got married 2 months ago right when he started (she obviously didnt invite him) and she agrees that if he makes me uncomfortable and whatnot that i shouldnt have him there. I should be surrounded by people that i want to spend the most important day of my life with not drug using stealers that i invited just because i work with them. i have a second job and im not inviting everyone from there so who is saying that i have to invite everyone from my fulltime job? What i decided to do is just inform my co-workers that are invited that i would prefer that the talk about whos coming and whos not to a minimum. Out of all the people ive asked for advice maybe 2 people told me to give this guy a pity invite and just cross my fingers that he knows im not a fan of him and that he will reply no. I dont want to risk it im just not going to invite him and if he asks why im just going to say that we had a set guest list for about 6 months or more and that we dont have the room or the money to add anyone else, i mean thats a nice way to put someone down right?

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Re: Should i invite a boss

posted at 7/7/2009 8:53 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com

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I am having the same issue. Except this person is my boss. I work in a fairly small office. My wedding is not for another year and this person is the newest of the team and I don't care for them at all and neither does anyone else. They have been here since I have been engaged. I don't want them there at all; but being that it is office I feel that I have too. What do I do?

I will invite the CEO of the company and 4 other people. Would it be a slap in the face if I don't invite the "one" ?

I too an hoping that this person will be gone soon-fired, but who knows when that will happen.

Help me!!

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posted at 7/7/2009 9:32 AM CDT on weddingchannel.com