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This last weekend we had our engagement party because a lot of people were home for the holidays, and we had a little holiday/engagement fest. Well, to cut to the chase, there was a lot of punch and e
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This last weekend we had our engagement party because a lot of people were home for the holidays, and we had a little holiday/engagement fest. Well, to cut to the chase, there was a lot of punch and e
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Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/22/2009 2:25 PM EST
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This last weekend we had our engagement party because a lot of people were home for the holidays, and we had a little holiday/engagement fest. Well, to cut to the chase, there was a lot of punch and eggnog and one of my bridesmaids hooked up with one of the groomsmen! They'd nevr met before because my friend is from college and she just came for the party, and the groomsman is my fiance's friend from home. (we live there now.)
Anyway, she left on Sunday but she keeps calling me everyday because she's nervous she's going to see him at the wedding. Apperently it was pretty awkward the next morning when she woke up at his house. I don't have a problem with them having a relationship but i don't want drama at my wedding because of this. she thinks she has to avoid him or something and i feel like she's going to try and steal the show.
And besides having to console her, I now have to worry about, do I sit them next to each other at dinner and do they walk down the aisle together and stuff like that.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/22/2009 2:41 PM EST
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If this was your ENGAGEMENT party, I would assume you are pretty far out from the wedding itself. By the time the wedding rolls around hopefully both parties will have put this behind them.
I would not worry about changing wedding plans and seating charts just yet unless you are having this party a month out from the wedding.
In a few months she should be adult enough to accept she made a mistake and move on and be mature about being in the same WP as the groomsman.
Let her do her walk of shame, nod your head and say "uh huh" and let her get over it.
Don't stress yourself out over it.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/22/2009 6:16 PM EST
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If she's old enough to drink and have casual sex, she's old enough to not make it your problem.
She needs to pull her big girl panties up, paste on a smile and make it work.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/22/2009 7:48 PM EST
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This is like some movie. Hopefully they will both be able to act like adults and put it past them. I'm sure you'll be fine. Don't sweat it.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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I personally don't think this will turn into a big showdown or even a small one.
A few months will put more light on it for her. Maybe by then she'll decide to just let the whole thing go.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/23/2009 7:40 AM EST
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Just let it play itself out. As the pps have said, it sounds like you have a while before the wedding. I have had, as have many people, and "affair" of that nature before, and the feelings fade over time. Most likely she will relax in the coming months.
If she does, in the future, say something to you about the situation, just remind her that it will only be for one day that she sees him, and there will only be drama if she allows it to happen.
You do not need, nor should you, rearrange seating arrangements. I think Kraid said it best.
If she's old enough to drink and have casual sex, she's old enough to not make it your problem.
She needs to pull her big girl panties up, paste on a smile and make it work.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/23/2009 9:58 AM EST
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I agree. It's her problem. You have to such other stuff to worry about that I would put this out of your head. She's the one who did it.
I totally agree- she needs to pull her big girl panties up and make it work!
It's your day, not hers.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
posted at 12/23/2009 1:53 PM EST
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You've GOT to be kidding me. Does she not realize it is your wedding and you have more important things to worry about than the fact that she got busy with a groomsman? Has she never hooked up before? Tell her you love her, but this is the least of your concerns right now. Assure her it's not a big deal (really, it isn't) and get on planning your wedding. If you think it will be an issue, pair her with someone else and sit them at different tables. But for the love of god, lady, don't let THIS stress you out!
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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Let's just hope she's not pregnant at your wedding! LOL!
Seriously, though, it's a big so-what. Who hasn't had a drunken hook-up or two in her life. Be grateful it wasn't at the Rehearsal Dinner!
It will be not-news by the time they see each other next. Good luck!
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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I think your bridesmaid is making this bigger than it really is. Has your FI or this groomsman said one word about it? In reality he probably is just shrugging it off and carving another notch into his bedpost. I doubt he'll pursue her at the wedding or hit on her. They need to shake hands and say that it's just one of those things that happened, it's life. She's just embarrassed that's all and she'll get over it. Don't let her drama be your drama.
Good luck!!
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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In Response to Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman:
If she's old enough to drink and have casual sex, she's old enough to not make it your problem. She needs to pull her big girl panties up, paste on a smile and make it work.
Posted by Kraid
Amen to this. If she made a decision that she now regrets, she needs to get over it, or at least pretend she has moved past it. She's a bridesmaid and he's a groomsman. They're going to see each other at the wedding.
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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I agree with all PPs, but don't be too harsh...
Awkward passes with time. Maybe it's something they can laugh about by the time of the wedding!
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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Add "& guest" to her invite and she's got until your wedding to find a hottie date to stroll in with. Problem solved
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Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman
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In Response to Re: Bridesmaid hooked up with groomsman:
Add "& guest" to her invite and she's got until your wedding to find a hottie date to stroll in with. Problem solved
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GENIUS. That's the move.
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