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I am not sure about this but it keeps sitting in the back of my mind. Do you have to have a groom's cake? I have no plans of it since the wedding cake will be more than enough for everyone and thats j
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Groom's cake?

posted at 11/6/2009 10:44 AM CST on weddingchannel.com
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I am not sure about this but it keeps sitting in the back of my mind. Do you have to have a groom's cake? I have no plans of it since the wedding cake will be more than enough for everyone and thats just another stupid expense I think but like I said it just keeps popping up and a couple people of asked about it. Whats the protocol on the groom's cake anyway?

*The Future Mrs. Wile*

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Honestly, I don't know if this is one of those things that is more common in certain parts of the country, but I'd never heard of a groom's cake until I started reading these boards. I've never been to a wedding that had one; nothing. I agree that it sounds like just another expense.


I think it's totally optional whether you have one or not.

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You don't have to have one.

My understanding is that it fairly common in the South and that it was traditionally a fruit cake that guests took pieces of home as favors -- and if you were a single woman, you would dream of your true love if you put the piece of cake under your pillow that night. Or something like that. My friends did a cake and punch reception, so they had a white bride's cake, a chocolate groom's cake, and little pieces of fruit cake packaged as favors with that explanation. It worked for their reception, because the cake was the primary food item, so it was nice to have two completely different (but equally delicious) options.


Alternately, I've heard of people getting a cake decorated to reflect the groom's taste (i.e., sports team, Wii, golf) and serving it at the rehearsal dinner.

The point is - if you don't want it, you don't need it, so don't worry about it. :-)

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Here in the South, the groom's cake is to give the groom some say so in the wedding.  At least that is what I have heard.  Traditionally, the wedding cake is girly and most grooms do not have much of a say in it.  The groom's cake is just something that is done to have the groom feel like he is part of the madness or some mess like that.  My FH liked a completely different cake combination than what we picked out for the cake.  He helped choose and if we would not have had the groom's cake as part of our package, we probably would not have purchased one.  All in what you want.

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When I think grooms' cake, I think of the Armadillo cake in "Steele Magnolias"!  :D

You're not required to have one, it's just all in what the 2 of you want or can afford.

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       Having one is a cultural tradition in DH family.  Since we had pies, small cakes, and pastries at our reception, and no formal rehearsal dinner, we served a grooms cake at a day after cookout for guests and their families (the 150 plus children and teens not at the wedding.)
      We combined it with the northern Italian children's procession we did not have, and the giving of flowered headpieces to young and teen girls  common to my north Scandinavian heritage, since we had not had any bouquet toss.  No worry about incorporating them in the wedding.
      Some people have a grooms cake at a day after brunch or rehearsal dinner.  I would only worry if (as with ours) an older relative or coven of great aunts was  planning to make one as an ethnic tradition.

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I don't think that the groom's cake is common in all areas.  I was brought up in the Northeast and never heard of it until I moved to Virginia.  I have seen them served often at the rehersal dinner which seems to be a good compromise to me

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I always thought the groom's cake was served the night before at the groom's dinner??

But maybe that's the Minnesota interpretation.  :)  I don't think it really matters.  We'll probably make that one a cheesecake anyway.  Since neither of us really like cake, but love cheesecake, I'm hopeful about making that work for the groom's cake - especially since it was his idea.

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I agree with MikReb.  As we already know weddings are all about the BRIDE.  I feel the GROOM is just as important and plays a special part as well.  The Bride is not marrying herself, RIGHT! Why not give him something as simple as a cake.  (the groom cake is not big at all and it is not decorated like a wedding cake. It can have a sports, golf, etc theme).  My groom is so important I want him to walk down the idle by himself instead of meeting the minister at the front.

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I agree the grooms cake is something that is up to you.  I am wanting to do a groom's cake for my FI but it will be baseball cupcakes.  It was kinda his idea.  He said he didnt want a complete cake and all he needed was a small cupcake as a baseball with STL on it for his favorite baseball team the Cardinals.

So i am thinking it would be nice to do that for the rehearsal dinner as a dessert.  Maybe have it look like a baseball but have our initials on it instead.  Still working that out but it is an interesting treat.

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I really don't think me not having a groom's cake is taking anything away from it being his day as well. Its a waste of money and he agrees. Money that could be spent on more important things that day or our honeymoon.

*The Future Mrs. Wile*

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I'm from the Texas and I have never been to a wedding that didn't have a groom's cake. They are usually chocolate in contrast to the vanilla bride's cake.
And they are usually fun and festive reflecting the groom's style.
I know my Fiance is going to have an awesome groom's cake that reflects who he is...gamer/nerd :D

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