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Reen, you would be surprised with some of the posts that come up on here. You do (to me anyway) seem sensible, but there are many people who have posted in the past, that will say, if you do not wear black and white to my reception, there will be someone at the door to kick you out.
Unfortunately, that is one topic that can get out of hand. And often times it is brought up whenever someone mentions a themed wedding.
Saying "it's my day" also depends on the context. When it is meant as 'it's my day, so I don't give an "f" about what anyone else thinks, I'm doing it my way" is childish. Even though it's your wedding, there are others that should be considered when planning it. If 75% of my friends were allergic to nuts, but I REALLY wanted a hazlenut cake, screw them it's my day - that's zillaish.
Remember too, that even though someone else brought up the dress code subject, you kept it going by defending yourself to the point the tone of the origional thread changed. By replying to cosmo's point, which was only meant to caution, you set yourself up to attract attention to that subject, whether you intentionally meant to or not. So to blame everyone else on the change in subject, is not entirely fair.
FWIW, I don't think you are going to be rude in the manner you ask your guests. If I were you I would get the opinions of a friend, or relative, on the best way to approach that topic, or even if anyone in your social circle will be offended. It's all in the way it's handled.
I'm not good with decorations, so I don't have anything to add on that front, but I am sure it will be beautiful and elegant, and everything you hope it will be.
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